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I saw a video in which Albert Pujols said he ask hitters that get to 1st base, "what is the most important thing in your life".  I know we as coaches all have got those great canned answers to tell parent and potential employers in job interviews, but when you watch them/us you know there is more to it than what they say.  The first 2/3 of my career (12 or `15 years) I was that guy. I said all the right things, but deep down if I was honest it was just as much about my w/l record and reputation as anything. Then one year I had what some would call an epiphany. We had just been to the state championship game in football 3 years in a row. We had taken a baseball team that struggled to win a game to a team that was in the playoffs every year......and yet parents were not happy, coaches seemed happier in the off season than during their sport (which baffled me), players seemed apathetic. Something just wasn't right.  We ran character building groups that gained state wide recognition. Coaches were winning awards, We had the best facilities for every sport, and we were winning lots of games, but something still wasn't right. 

Anyway, all of that hit me and caused me to start actually practicing what I preach.  One of the major thing I did was I no longer placed my value in a W/L record and life became infinitely more enjoyable. That lead to me being a better husband and father. Which in turned increased my joy for life. Then tragedy  struck last year. I did not know if I could continue to teach and coach with the same passion as before.  This fall while coaching football I am glad my assts stepped up and carried the load because I was not able to do it.  It as taken almost a year, but this spring I realize that I am able and enjoy getting on the field again. Will it be the same? Never.  Can it be great again? Without a doubt.  

Thanks for letting me ramble, so to you just starting out and at different points in your career path.  Please do not get caught up in the bigger and better and win, win, win.  

So, what is the most important thing in your life?  Baseball is just a game. There is so much more

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ironhorse posted:

You know, this doesn't directly answer the why, but the longer i do it I find perhaps my favorite part is the relationships I have with former players. I can't begin to describe how much it means to get the random text or call from a kid about an event in their life. Hell, maybe that does answer the why.

I know what you mean. I had one last week txt me and say he was passing through and took me to lunch. 

 

Even just the tag on FB lets you know you made an impact on them. I a player that graduated 5 years ago tag me with this video saying it reminded him of some of the stunts we pulled off.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=spQ09EGOI4o

Tonight, I was fortunate to have a former player join me at softball practice.  We swapped some old stories and had a blast.  This player shared stories that some of the players had heard but maybe questioned.  After hearing this player tell stories about what it was like, "back in the day," they were really wide eyed and amazed.  When we wrapped up practice, I went over to talk to the baseball coaches who were practicing on the adjacent field.  The Varsity HC, and 2 Assistant Coaches all played for me.  They here me yelling in practice and so, one told me he leaned over to one of the others and said, "I actually miss that."  LOL  I've been the HC in 4 varsity sports.  I am coaching this spring and a JV Coach which is the first time in maybe 20 years I've been an assistant.  I've won a lot of games in every one of those sports.  Wins are fine and are what most coaches are measured on.  The fact is, no coach is any good without the players buying into what the coach wants.  Sports and coaching should be about winning kids and not games.  That is why I coach.  I coach for the kids.  I love coaching.  I have given my intent to retire in 3 years.  I know that on the day I stop coaching, I am going to have a gigantic hole in my life.  My hope for all of you who do coach is that you approach coaching as something you get to do instead of something you have to do. 

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