I would agree with you if he was not working his butt off to get straight As in school and becoming a better ballplayer. Filling out a few forms does not count as a "helicopter" parent, and I received advice from others that the recruiting process can be overwhelming, and not to have him focused on it every day. I help with that part and inform him, and he makes decision on how to proceed based on my advice. He makes 99% of all contacts with interested coaches. Note: I helped my daughter too in her college search, and somehow she survived.
I agree that you should not be doing everything, or most things, for them. But our family is a team and this is a team effort to help him find the right college fit. I receive(d) advice on this website and told him about it, and we agree on the best recruiting course of action, such as what camps to attend. I take videos and download on to youtube for him to send links to coaches. If that is too much, then so be it. I will take that chance.