We had both of ours as recruited athletes and both made their college visits on their own. We did the homework on the schools and had numerous discussions with the coaches. Everything worked out fine. I think it is important to emphasize that as a parent you are walking a fine line in all of this. Certainly you are paying the tuition and costs but it is your son who is going to the school and it needs to be the place they feel is right for them. Need to make sure your son is picking the school that is right for them not the school they think you think is right for them. Not always easy for us as parents to recognize but we have great influence over our children even when we are not trying.