This site give us the perspective of many. There is no right or wrong way.
With these perspectives in mind, you can adjust on the fly.
You might get to a school and the coaches only want to talk to your son. Knowing that this happens, as a parent, you can back off a little.
Other coaches want to get to know the whole family.
Do what makes you comfortable. You'll know when you should be there.
And you'll know when it's time to go.
When you know it's time to get out of the way, get out of the way...............
The seemingly general consensus of this website is that coaches are dumba$$es. And you may come across one that is.
But, they recruit year 'round and you do it once in a lifetime.
(unless you are BeenthereIL with 7 , which is why we should listen to him)
They size you, your family, and your son up quickly.
Going into the process there is a fear that somehow the process can be screwed up. I doubt that happens very much.
I liked bbscouts story about his son's recruiting
Our story has similar twists.
We attended some. He would have been fine on his own.
Quit looking for colleges that don't have drinking, parties and S E X. There are not many out there.
What you need to listen for is this.
"Dad, (or Mom), this is where I want to go to school and play baseball. I like it here. I like the coaches. I think I have a chance to play here."
And for those more academically bent.
"Dad, (or Mom), this is where I want to go to school and play baseball. I like it here. I like the coaches. I think I have a chance to play here. I think I can get a good education here."