Coming from a little different prospective I'll share a brief conversation I had once with a coach. My son tried out & made a travel team coached by a former DI college coach (we decided to play for a different team so never played for him). We had a couple of telephone conversations prior to making a decision where he shared some of his coaching philosophies. Forgot how it came up but he told of a player that had done something trivial to irk him. He then sat the player waiting for the player to ask why. As the season went on the player never asked why he wasn't playing so the coach didn't play him. Coach said if the player wasn't interested he wasn't going to play. When the season ended the player moved on. Seemed kind of silly to me but the coach wanted to be asked why.