Hi,
Seems like this all boils down to the individual player's choice. If he wants to compete at the varsity level, it requires a top notch varsity level commitment.
If he desires a lesser commitment, in order to participate in a wider breadth of activities, then there are numerous recreational leagues available. And that isn't a bad thing... that is why they exist!
I once asked my son if an outfit looked good on me before heading out for the evening. He looked at me and replied; "Not my decision."
I would humbly submit that this decision isn't yours either. Present the positives of each option and let the boy choose! Support his choice!
Isn't this a wonderful problem to have? The activities that our kids have a chance to experience? We are truly blessed.