I'm going to have my son's chinese(Hong Kong born) mother read this woman's bull***t and give me her opinion. People can't cast a broad brush on a culture just because they belong to that culture, and everybody must believe. My wife does expect academic success, but not to the degree of mental distress she has seen in her culture. She also expects her son's to be as good as possible on the field with their TEAMS. This woman married an American and has been here since she was 1, and has little clue how it is back in the homeland. But I do agree that we make way to many excuses for our children's shortcomings in this country. In my opinion we are becoming too soft, and that can lead to us losing more ground on other cultures that are gaining ground way to fast for my liking. I will comment again later after I consult with the Wife.