In regards should an ump call a balk to score a run. I tell my guys if they don't pause then they are the ones opening up the door for the umpire to make this call. They are the ones who are doing this not the ump. It's about personal responsibility. If I agree with the ump my guy balked I'm going to to still go out there but I'm probably going to tell him it was a good call or something to that effect.
In regards to the quick pitch - there was a guy in our region who was notorious for quick pitching and that was what made him successful. For some reason nobody would call him on it. We had to play them in the first round of playoffs. We hadn't seen him all year but other coaches told me about him. So I talked to the plate ump and told him he wasn't going to quick pitch us - either they would call it or we were going to take legal measures to stop it. I knew the guy really well so he knew I wasn't being disrespectful.
We went the first inning and he was pretty quick to pitch but it was very borderline of legal / illegal. Guy didn't call it and I can understand why not but it was going to give him an advantage. Next thing you know is I'm giving signs every pitch that take longer than normal, my guys are walking up to the plate slower, lot of shoes got tied and retied, time got called more often but not to the point it was ridiculous and several other things. I didn't want to turn the game into a travesty and we talked about it the day before at practice. My guys were awesome and it started to frustrate this guy and we ended up beating them. I don't felt that either team turned the game into a travesty because the casual fan probably wouldn't have caught on to what either team was doing - just people who really know baseball. Hard to explain