As a funeral director/embalmer, I hear all kinds of stories and wishes. A few years ago I had a lady request something a little different….with her permission I will share.
Said lady has requested to be cremated when she dies. She wants me to separate her ashes into small bags (picture the old rice bags at weddings), and at the end of her memorial service give everyone a bag of her cremains. She says people can take her cremains and do with them as they please. “The ones that actually like me can spread me at a special place or keep me in their house to remember me. The ones that don’t like me, well, they can flush me down the toilet, throw me in the trash, etc.” She says, by doing this, everyone gets their wish, including her.