Okay Chill - I'm here
Most of you know I feel very strongly that girls do not ruin any boys baseball career. They simply give him a very interesting, very appealing, very tempting alternative - he chooses on his own.
Yes my sons first serious girlfriend (now broken up) altered his baseball future big time. But she ruined nothing
As many of you know his D2 school dropped baseball due to title 9 - his all-conference performance gave him some good options for next year - including D1. Once again he chose to be close to his children over a good D1 offer.
He tells me he would much rather wonder if he could have played at the D1 level for the rest of his ife - than wonder if he could have been a good father had stayed close enough to be active in their lives.
She gave him something that he fells (and I agree) is more valuable than baseball.
Yes, she altered his plans - but it was his choice. He could have (and I am so glad he did not) put baseball first, and taken that D1 offer.
We always have choices. Girls are just the temptation - not the blame.