Believe it or not, there is a kind of flow to all of this. As your son goes through the process, and using resources like this site, you'll be just fine. You have to be careful not to make this work and don't make it work for your son. My child was easy. She was driven and, as a parent, I just sat back for the ride. In the end, as you go through this process, you'll find out just where your son fits in if you don't have blinders on. Good luck!