We have to let them handle things on their own.........Exactly . I remember many years ago my son complaining to me about something that happened. I told him if he had a complaint I was not the one to voice the complaint as I had nothing to do with whatever it was. I do rmember one time he told me how the coach yelled at him (yes the coach yelled). He got doubled off a base on a bunt. He was basically whining which I hate now as I did all those years ago . I just said to him the easy fix was do not get doubled off.