Slugger - I agree wholeheartedly. It usually does not take very long to figure where the hot buttons are if you spend enough time with any person as coaches and players do.
So a player playing a passive/aggressive approach of - Geez I don't know why he's going off - when in fact he is pounding on some hot button for the coach for 2 hours in practice 3 or 4 times a week is being a jerk in his own right.
On the flip side if the player does do it right and is reaching the point the whole experience is ultimately so negative it becomes a hassle, burden etc. then that player does have a decision to make on the trade off of playing vs. plowing through the noise.