Govols,
As the parent of a select player, it is interesting that you are bemoaning the CHOICE that you made for your son...at least you had a choice and still do. IMO, select baseball IS very much like buying a car....you need to do your research and not just join a team/organization because they have a history of success or the head guy is a "nice guy". Unfortunately, too many BB organizations talk a good game but that's where it ends!
TALK and LISTEN to as many families as possible who are both with and have left the organization you are considering. The truthful assessment of the organization is probably somewhere in between what you will hear. I have found that assessing the "character" of the organization will lead you to the right choice.
By the way, I would consider discussing your unhappiness with both the coach and the head of the organization. This college player/coach is either "raw" (is this his 1st year) or a bad apple. Either way,your discussions could help him/head of org. see the situation from your side which he might correct or point out that maybe he isn't cut out for coaching.
Unfortunately, parents of a HS player, have NO CHOICE! Discussions/concerns can be prohibited or retaliated for with no REAL recourse!