I don't see it that way Jeff. I really don't.
The "great" offer is different to every kid and every family...sometimes different to the kid than the family.
I don't think I'm part of your definition of "WE (the baseball community)."
Parents and their sons pick the school that is right for him within their means...whichever school that may be (big, small, JC, D1, D2, D3 or whatever).
To me, its really that simple. No one on here can figure that out for you...none of us walk in your shoes.