Do you know how wrong this sounds when it is written or said? "Let guys be guys." They are HS or college kids so they are gonna drink and smoke a little pot and have sex and .... It does not have to be that way. I don't live in a glass house partly because I have/had expectations. My older two are grown men on their own so they can make their own choices but I'm glad to hear every now and then that their choices are good ones. Overheard my 30 year old tell one of his friends who is struggling with alcoholism the other day that if you never take a sip you don't have deal with that problem. The guy laughed and said no way you have never drank. Son, who didn't know I was listening, said never touched it. That's how I was raised. When coaches and parents tell their kids it is ok to break the law then what can we expect as a society for our nation to be like.