OK. Don't confuse two issues. One issue is whether it's right or whether you would want your kid playing under such a coach. The issue I'm trying to address is what to do about it when you are already in that situation. For the record, it's not a style I like or would recommend my own kid to play under. However, once your there, you either figure out how to deal with it or you leave. Leaving has plenty of consequences to be considered. If a coach is otherwise fair with playing time, isn't doing anything physically abusive, develops talent, etc AND you can learn how to deal with this style of coaching, staying is often the better option. YMMV.