What does your son want to do? It is his life, not yours. You provide guidance, but in the end, you do not want him to have any regrets because YOU took over and made the decision for him. He has to be included in the process. You will all learn a lot. Throwing pens in front of decision makers will be a great experience as a high schooler. If he goes to college, and they are still interested, he will already have that experience under his belt. That’s a good thing! Slow down and enjoy the process. Don’t skip any parts. These moments are special, and can be short lived. Anything can happen including injury and illness.