Not too much more to add, and not necessarily answering your questions, but here goes:
1) baseballhs mentioned that coaches have eyes everywhere. Play every game as if someone is watching. If you are in podunk cornfield Georgia, play as if someone is watching. There was a post years ago about a player that got referred to a college coach from an umpire that the coach had a relationship with. (btw, son got his first serious look from the coach of his college in podunk cornfield Georgia). Sometimes college coaches sit in the parking lot and watch players come off the bus at tournaments to see how the prospect carries himself.
2) In a post above, there was a mention of "upside" of a prospect, and if the player will grow anymore. For that reason, I wouldn't let keewartson grow a beard in high school, and explained why (tips from this site). In those eyes, it then looked really odd to see a player hit for power, sporting their facial hair, as a 16yo uncommitted player.
3) Welcome to this site. The members aren't all dads. There are a good amount of moms here, giving great advice from their experience because, like in my case, the dad knew baseball but not the recruiting process. There are a TON of dads on here too with great advice of course! Reach out if you need to.
4) Keep asking questions! We are here! Good luck!