Goodness gracious, I feel sorry for the kid who asked the question, being treated instead to this vitriol instead of people making suggestions to help him! Why don't you two take your argument off the site and send IMs to each other? Better yet, take each other out for a hot dog? (I woulda said beer but this is a high school site....)
Back to the OP whose name I forget--good luck with the recruiting. I wonder if the experts on the site can tell you at what point you can start asking the coaches about financial aid? How well do you have to know the coach, or how many times do you have to have talked to him, to ask these questions?