IMO, the reality of how the situation is handled has already been determined by how you raised your son his last 18 yrs.
during college selection (official & unofficial visits) our goal was to get a realistic impression of campus life, the team, the student body, and the community - - without a real feel, how could a fit be judged??
for the sanitized view we could have saved time & just read thru the college catalog and looked at pictures
itsagreatgame - when you exagerate extreme, your point is lost - - so, how's this?
"boys, give me your impression of this recruit tomorrow, will he fit, is he disciplined?
futurebackmom - the age was raised in the mid 80's because the feds said so (against the wishes of the states involved and under threat of withholding federal $$), the studies came later, and actually, some respected studies since have suggested the opposite - way more binge drinking, more abuse, and no supervision , etc -
instead of a laid back evening listening to music or watching a game and having a few beers at a bar (w/bartenders & bouncers), those who choose to drink do so at an unsupervised house party off campus with 25 kegs & who knows what else
hmmm, my daughter starts Ohio U next week - said she chose for her major and had no idea it would be ranked the #2 party school.
the part above about how you raised them just may not apply to daughters
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