RJM, What you experienced is close to where I think things should fall. I want to instill commitment values and that missing team events is not only hurting the individual player but also the team, but its quite more of a challenging balancing act than many realize. Some of my assistants and I disagree on this a fair bit which challenges my beliefs even further. What size and type of school was this at? Ours is rural and small, graduating class of around 80, no tryouts allowed.