My sons took some lessons at a baseball academy in a Chicago suburb a few years ago. We spoke with one of the employees, a college graduate who had played baseball in college. In the course of one of our conversations, we discovered that he played a game against the female pitcher. He told us that she wasn't very overpowering, but she could hit her spots. She struck out a bunch of hitters....and of course, they couldn't believe it. They were very embarrassed. She was a freshman---and it was her first win.
shortstopmom--If you click on the link that I posted on page one, you will see that it links to the American Women's Baseball Federation. You will discover that there are actually a number of girls who do play baseball. Perhaps they can help your daughter find a team.