TR,
I understand your approach and am sure you have the kids best interest in mind with that approach. Obviously if a coach requests the conversation to be confidential, I would not expect it would be mentioned as that is critical to current and future kids opportunities.
I don't necessarily need to know about any school that asks about TurnTwoSon (2011), but I would definitely like to know if one of the schools that is on HIS list has him on their radar...it might allow him to give them a follow-up call or e-mail so that they know the interest is mutual...but it can't happen unless he knows about it...I would suggest cautioning against getting hopes up, but making kids and / or parents aware of schools on their list asking about them...
just my opinion...