Sooner or later, our young adult children do pull away from what we want to do what they think is best. It's very difficult when you're not on the same page, so my prayers for all of you. Sometimes, the best lessons are ones where we fail, but we tried things on our terms. Also, who's to say that just because we mature ones think differently that it is truly a bad decision - it's just different from what we think best sometimes.However, if he's going to JUCO, couldn't he go to one that is funded? To me, one of the biggest perks about JUCO is having everything paid for. Is it an option that can be a compromise - JUCO, but one with housing and a scholly?
If things are all settled, I say give him a hug and tell him you're proud of him for doing what he thinks best in his heart. Who's to say.... maybe he'll be right.