a thought on where she is coming from to get that perspective...
A good friend of mine was the chancellor at a nearby college, and he and I would get together for lunch every 3 or 4 months. Our conversations usually started with me asking "how many"... he always knew exactly what I was asking. He would pause to collect himself before telling me how many parents he'd now had to call to break the news that their entire world had just committed suicide on his watch. He had a pretty rough time at my school, but nothing affected him like that. It was a crushing responsibility.