But i don't see where you get that her views are elitist. Seems like a projection of some issue of yours onto her and a pretty unfair projection at that.
+1
The issues in modern American society are a little more than anecdotal, as someone has suggested. Parents vicariously living through kids is "crampant" as Chickenman would say.
We have little leagues where a kid who throws 40 isn't allowed to play because he's too fast and other kids get their feelings hurt because they aren't successful. The problem is not the kids and their feelings getting hurt. They get over it. Just like we did. The problem is the parents and grandparents and their feelings getting hurt. Junior strikes out every time and sad mommy and grandma tell him he's wonderful and can be whatever he wants to be. Junior needs to hear the truth a little more.
Teaching elder, stories don't get any more anecdotal than above.
Okay. Then what is it that you would like?