Is it possible too many fathers revel in being in the spotlight with their son? Fathers have to remember they had their turn whether they made the team or not. Now it’s their son’s turn. Playing time and success are not about the father. It’s about the player.
After an all conference soph year my son had a spectacular (unconscious) junior year. When I arrived parents raved to me about my son. I would smile, quietly thank them and suggest they tell my son, not me. I told them I was just there to enjoy the game. I tended to cheer louder for other players than my son.
The point is too many father’s want to bask in the glory and see their son’s success as a reflection on them. I had already had my turn. I was there to enjoy my son’s turn.