Perhaps I think differently than most here but I never felt I had to drive my boys to anything---if they wanted it they did it--if they asked for a ride to the cage, I never had a cage in my yard, they got it---if they wanted to play catch in the yard I joined them
They were self motivators and we also always had kids at the house--our door was always open as was the refridgerator--we also had a multitude of Nintendo tournaments in the playroom--in fact many of the kids from their LL days are friends of mine on Facebook today
Bottom line was that they knew I was there for them--never missed any of their games regardless of the sport-- I think that is all that they needed--to know the support was there not to be pushing them but aiding them and supporting them