Lots of good posts/suggestions above. However, each school/program has its own culture. Our kick-off potluck dinner is next week. Son's coach will answer questions about anything outside the lines. You can save anything having to do with play/team/philosophy/strategy for the bathroom mirror.
I find a question like "How are you going to develop my son?" or "What if a college is coming?" out of place, especially in our environment.
Coach will say early I play to the best lineup and play to win each game. I do look ahead at development, but I play to win games. It doesn't matter what grade your son is in.....Our funding is low, we need your help. But for any fundraisers, never give me a check, give it to the team fundraiser helper. I will only see the bank balance, and don't look at who donated the funds.