Reply to "Is something wrong with my son? I feel like I'm missing something"

JucoDad5,000+ posts

@ABSORBER posted:
Ha-ha, I have to disagree! Unless he's getting a full-ride (not likely), parents (who will be paying) need to participate in the decision!

Every kid, the relationship with their parents and financial situation is different. I believe that from 13 to 18 us parents transition from a position of power to one of influence, and that how you manage that transition (gradual or like a switch) can impact your longterm relationship. My youngest was fiercely independent, while his older brother was way more collaborative - the going to college process was very different for them.

Thankfully, assuming no abuse we get to mess our kids up they way we choose - I always felt I was in competition with the wife in who would be the biggest topic of their future therapy sessions. Not sure who won...

I do agree with @ABSORBER, if the parents have a significant financial stake then they should be part of the discussion.

7/22/233:00 PM

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