BHD,
You support TR asking this young man "why" he "did it to himself" and was it inactivity.
However, you then post you don't know the cause, you need to not overdue it, and you need to take care of yourself.
This is the ultimate in the "Monday" morning quarterback with a young man who is mentally having to come to grips with some significant medical news, while also trying to get information on what it means for college baseball.
You and TR come on with "you should have done something" different.
Again, what specifically should he have done differently?
Otherwise, you and TR both owe this young man an apology and let's help him moving forward, not doing your great look in the rear view mirror.
Oh, and by the way, doctor's don't have a standard approach.
One of our son's teammates was in Fall Instrux. Felt a twinge and pain in his first inning on a Monday. On Tuesday, he had an MRI.
On Thursday, he had surgery, just before our son, who was told he could play a full season.
The only thing consistent about Labrum injuries and treatment is it appears inconsistent.
Neither your nor TR offered this young man coming here a single piece of useful advice for his questions about the future.
Neither you nor TR did anything but be judgmental about the past. All that is your right.
Supporting someone saying "he did this to himself" is a sad commentary for a high school player relying on adults for some guidance.