Thanks for sharing the "frustration" video. We've all been there... gotta be able to laugh at ourselves sometimes when going thru the struggle.
Really hard to tell as I am picking up a few different and somewhat opposite things on the two videos. So, this is a longshot simplistic stab... But on swings 3 and 4 of the first video, it looks like you are letting inside pitches travel too deep and getting jammed. So, even with foot down early, etc., if you let that happen, all you can do is what you described. You must recognize location and get your hands out front as you are pulling them in. Then, stay behind and drive it.
This is one "disease" that usually requires a whole lot of taking a step back to tee work to regain the feel of staying behind/staying inside/getting to it out front and driving pull pitches before you get back to front toss or pitched bp.
The short second video actually shows a little bit of leak but if you go back to the tee work and include the "stay inside" aspect as a focal point, that should help wit that as well.
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