Your post is very refreshing to me. My son is in a similar situation, by age he should be a rising junior but he's a rising senior. Grew late and is still growing. I have been told by a few scouts that he is one of the better players in the area. But he's not a top talent by any means. He just wants to keep playing, works his tail off to get better, etc.
The rub is that he can academically get into a top D1 academic school who will cover a lot of the cost but he probably can't play ball there. I'm not about to crush his dreams yet but reality for me is setting in. This late in the game I don't see much happening.
Not sure where you are at but I found a showcase in CA that was mainly D2, D3, & Naia schools that we went to this summer.