Another satisfied customer. Always glad to hear our explanations of why things are called.
Doesn't matter if we have never met, we stick together on everything. And, never, never say an umpire missed a call. That just does not happen. No thread on this site or any other has umpires saying other umpires missed or may have missed the call. Not from us.
And, I'll bet your umpire who says the penalty for "going to the mouth" never looked at the rule to see if he was wrong. It isn't that he won't admit it. It is b/c he never bothered to find out if he was wrong. He probably didn't even ask another umpire about it. Those of us on here and any on other sites are on here for that reason. We want to know if we were wrong. We want to get better. And, we want to help others get better along with us. Your umpire may not be trying to do that.