Moral of this thread seems to be the illusion of control... you must do what you think is best for your kid at this present time. If a gap year is what it takes, then that is what it takes.
Having an A type personality was challenging even prior to Covid. Add a legit arm injury, and I can see where the pucker factor goes through the roof. @YachtRocker for what's worth, some long-time posters on here have their own writing styles, and may come off abrasive at times. However, if you don't take it personal their wisdom/knowledge is almost always correct.
Also, remember Door #3.... sunshine and sand goes a long way