buckeye, no worries, didn't take it personally, and I'm glad it worked out for your son. I just have a different perspective now after seeing how this has all played out. I do believe my son was at one of the more brutal programs, so it's probably not like this everywhere, although I'm not sure. I'm just thankful that the coach ripped off the scab- I'm glad he didn't tell him to hang in there, keep getting better, and he would have a chance to compete - because he would have stayed. I think they needed the scholarship money back- they were deep in returning upper classmen so they made a business decision. Coach even had a full scholarship juco lined up for him when he had the meeting with my son.
It's brutal but it's just business. Hopefully some of the parents at the beginning of the recruiting process will read these threads and learn. In hindsight, we would do things differently! but like life, you deal with the change and move on. It will all work out!