Fortunately for you and your son he is 14 and not 17. I would throttle way back this year until he chooses to ramp it up again. Play the HS season and let him enjoy it and have fun. Let him work through this with your love and support. If he continues, he continues. I would encourage him to keep playing with his HS. But anything else should be his decision alone.
He has plenty of time from a recruiting standpoint, let him take some pressure off.