Having calmed down, my instinct tells me that this probably isn't the crisis I originally thought. Like Prime9 said, I've probably been applying pressure and not even realizing it. I'm not going to let him have a slackard's attitued, but maybe a little less pressure from Mom would be appropriate...
We just want our kids to be as successful as they can be. And to appreciate what they've been given; their talents, their intelligence, their physical mobility, and just the fact that they aren't living in a 3rd world country under the dictatorship of some crazy person. I want to see that appreciation from my kids!!!!!