JohnnieM,
Nobody said that the kid that doesn't attend showcases or camps will be written off, or thought to love the game less. They may not be considered as less serious about the game, but I will tell you this, they'll be considered more difficult to get enrolled, particularly at many schools. With athletic money covering only a small portion of a team's total college costs, coaches know that families will be required to help financially. Many coaches recruit from camps and showcases because they assume those families will be financially able to help. They don't just recruit the best players. They try to recruit the best players they feel can successfully enroll at their school. May not be fair, but that's the way it is.