Infielddad, very good and thoughtful post....thank you. Think point 5 is important. The trip is at the parent's expense, but the investment can result not only in helping son make better decisions, but also in the Coach becoming more committed to having your son in his program....and sometimes that can result in higher academic scholarship money.....depending on the the Coaches influence with the schools financial aid office.....it can be a major return on the price of the plane ticket.