When my son was evaluating programs the starting point was the roster and stats. The school he attended it was customary to see a roster with 40 to 45. Yet looking at the stats only 25 +/- would see the field. Knowing that it was IMPERATIVE to watch both a practice and a game (the more the better). If you do not believe that you can successfully compete the you probably won’t see the field.
I don’t consider this over recruiting. This is the reality of a very successful D3 program.
Once you have an honest assessment as to your ability relative to those that are playing, then and only then are you prepared to have a conversation with the coaching staff as to “where do they see you fitting in.”