Teacherman, I have done this for a long time and I would say that with a majority of parents, I wouldn't need all of those steps. However, in one of those "parent meetings" where I was trying to help the parent and kid out, I got blindsided by a right hook after I walked away from that meeting. Then, things got nasty. That is the reson for the steps. The player is present because I won't talk behind anyone's back.
One more time, I will post this, let the player take care of his problem through communication with the coach. Most coaches I know really care for their kids. I know I do. Now, if Jon Jon earns his spot well, fine. However, if Jon Jon now starts playing after the Parent talks to the coach, then Jon Jon will NEVER be given credit for earning that starting spot. Then, like some plague, everyone else will be campaigning for their sons. Everything here is JMHO!