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Parents and College Coaches

My son is a 2022. In September 2020, we met his college coach, talked about the program and got a tour of the campus. That was the first and last time we (as parents) had any contact (at all) with the coach. No conversations. No emails. No texts. Everything before and everything since has been between my son and the coach.

When we met two years ago, we had to wear masks for COVID-19. So, I doubt he even knows what we look like.

When we did visit, the coach did say "I'm not one of those coaches. You can contact me at any time with questions, etc." But, my wife and I both know that my son would prefer that we were barely seen and never heard from with respect to his baseball dealings with coaches. And, we're respecting that wish. That's why we have been ghosts for two years now.

There's 11 incoming freshman and move in is just weeks away. And, there's an online support "group" for parents (any class/grade, athletes or not) where people can ask questions, etc.

And, I've seen comments in their from some of the mothers of other baseball freshman in there with references of "I called the coach" or "I spoke to the coach" on matters involving the kid and his transition to the school. (Always moms, never dads. But, I suspect it's mostly moms on this support page.)

The question is - should there be contact between parents and the coach? Is that the norm? I'm thinking that the coach doesn't want to know who I am. But, at the same time, I don't want to insult him by never saying a word to him for 4 years.

What is/was your experience?

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