Y'all need to have one of our type kids to see the hilarity of the restaurant ordering description. We had to do the same, and even when he would get it out it was always so quietly that he ended up needing to repeat it 2 or 3 times. lmao 
When you see the team huddled together around coach, you can always count on mine being on the outskirts... part of it all, but NOT in the middle. I didn't mention it in the OP, but another reason for not changing teams often was the paralyzing fear of getting with new guys...
I am not an extrovert, but I'm not the introvert he is either. Like you said threeU, you want to help as much as possible, but this is just one of those things that you can only work from the background. The only thing worse (to my son) than getting with a bunch of new guys is having his dad trying to grease the wheels. This only draws more attention to him, which is exactly the opposite of what he wants...