Citrus,
I agree with Bobblkehead, the coach must be a moron to allow this to happen if you have other options I would get out of there asap. We would never allow a kid to degrade a teamate for any reason if that happens you are either suspended for a game or if extreme enough thrown off the team, throw a helmet or bat you sit,swear, you sit, not hustle you sit, throw at a batter you sit immediately in the middle of the inning, we had a new coach this year that asked me what was the catchers sign to throw at the batter, are you kidding me!!
This is the coaches fault, make the rules, enforce them and these type of problems disappear pretty quickly.
Baseball is a game of failure, that is what mekes it so great.