The problem is that today the kids do not want to "work thru" the difficulties. Ther majority are looking for the "easy" way out
I have always taught my kids to take care of business on your own, even at an early age--if it gets real "sticky" then come to me for help.
My son had both the recruiting coach and the Head Coach leave his school after three years for other positions--they, he and I are still in contact with each other and this is nearly ten years later---he made it all work, I didn't. All to his credit.