hop, a few Qs as I may be missing something
here's my take - -
your visit WILL be the Nov 3-5 weekend -
the NO CONTACT dead period is Nov 6-9 - - so you couldn't even contact the coach to accept or decline his offer anyway
EARLY SIGNING begins Nov 8 & he needs to get the docs to you
that leaves Sunday afternoon & evening for you & son to "consider" the opportunity
it very well may be a great offer & fit, but the coach's method & timing are a bit odd
jmo
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