Fungo
As usual a great thought provoking post.
One thing we have found is that the travel team caoch can and should be able to help the player/parents in this "fit" process and perhaps eliminate a some of the luck factor.
Here is an example: one of our kids went to visit two programs this week --we spoke with the head coach at both schools as well as another he is due to visit in upcoming weeks. We were able to update the coach on the boy and his family, the boys talents and weaknesses, yes we point them out to coaches, and the boys personality and make up.
Hopefully in doing this we can have the boy go into the visit with the coach pretty much filled in on the boy and his talent and needs.
Guys, do not be afraid to ask your coach to make a call or two for you. Most times this personal touch can go a long way on your behalf.
Just a thought from our viewpoint as a travel team program