Newcomer...
Didn't respond to the rest of your post...
IMO with the nature of the recuting process what it is at the moment...IMO it is better to be on the agressive side rather than the passive one. Yes the coaches all know each other, but you can't stop chasing the dream because your reading something into it.
IMO there are more coaches who will consider interest by another school to be validation of their decision to consider you, than those who will be put off. My best advice is to communicate clearly, know where you stand don't guess. Build relationships with the coaches if you can. But in the end it is a crazy, amazing, whirilwind game with unexpected twists and turns and you are well to remember that your son is not "off the board" until the ink dries. We all can relate stories of kids who knew that offer was coming and did not get it and others who got last minute offers from schools they had no idea were even considering them.
Have some fun!...
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